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How to ‘Get Deep’ Without Attachment in Relationships

Daily muse...Posted by Karen Sawyer Wed, October 05, 2011 20:42:29

Firstly, you will need an open heart. So, OPEN YOUR HEART. The more you are able, the deeper you go and the better it gets. Depth and passion are symbiotic.

If you won’t open your heart because you’re afraid of attachment – stop... that’s a good place to start to think about what attachment means to you. Is it loss of freedom, loss of yourself, or becoming dependent on others, perhaps? If this is the case, you’ll need to learn to become your own true love, your own best friend, mother, father, daughter, son, sister, brother, etc. – this takes the pressure off everybody else in your life to fulfil a need in you, which is what creates attachments in the first place. You create them because you are archetypally incomplete. Learn to be in a committed relationship with all aspects of yourself – make that commitment to your own completeness.

When we honestly take a look at how we feel about relationships, it oftentimes reveals a fear of intimacy or ‘into-me-you-see’ on some level – emotional, spiritual or physical. Fear of others seeing ‘who we really are’ prevents us from being it. Do you feel that you deserve to be loved? Can you give and receive love with no conditions or expectations? Are you willing to recognise and accept how divine you are; to step into your power and take responsibility for co-creating the world as you know it?

Being deep does not mean being ‘serious’. It’s about being and sharing your true Self IN THE MOMENT as far as you are able. A deep connection with another develops when you’re free to ‘be’ and ‘do’ and ‘say’ whatever you feel moved to ‘be’ and ‘do’ and ‘say’ at any of these given moments. Being deep requires that you trust yourself, your intuition and feelings; break all the rules and ‘wing it’ – let go of the riverbank and let the current take you downstream with the grace of a swan. As I said, the more you are able, the deeper you go and the better it gets. As you go deeper, the challenge is not to slip into attachment when new layers of reflections (positive or negative) emerge for you to look at (and they will). If at any point you feel like you’re becoming attached, step back, visualise cutting the ties that bind and take some time to re-connect with, balance and centre your Self. Nature will help you, if you ask.

The most important trip you will ever make is the voyage to the soul’s centre; it's the most beautiful location in the world To Build a Home, yet ever so many people have never been there and maybe never will. It’s not an easy journey and there’s no going back. I’m not there myself yet but, from what I’ve seen of it so far, it’s well worth taking that risk. Live dangerously and your experience and appreciation of the profundity of life, the universe and everything will increase exponentially... I promise.

~ Karen

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